Do People Know How to Be Friends? – Ep197

Instead of this show being a host/co-host conversation, Chris and Matthew get to site down as friends to discuss the question “Do People Know How to Be Friends?” They look at what it means to be a friend and how to get friends. They talk about the hazards of friendships outside of marriage, and the transient nature of friendships. They finish the show by going through a list of some ways to solve common problems in a friendship.

Tune it to see if People Know How to Be Friends Through a Therapist’s Eyes.

Co-Host Matthew Hanks: MatthewHanks.com
Son’s website: Choppatop.com

Listen for the following takeaways from the show:

  • Episode 23 was the last episode we had about Friends.
  • What you think? Do people know how to be a friend?
  • Friendship is the antidote to loneliness.
  • Exercise should be tier 1 in dealing with issues with friendship being #2 before you look towards medication.
  • Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people.
  • Finding a new friend is like dating: Finding, Introducing, then Growing.
  • One part of friendships is vulnerability.
  • Friendship is connection outside of the purpose point of the relationship. ie, outside of work, church, children’s events, etc.
  • Friendship Formula by Carolina Millington: Friendship = Proxy x (Frequency x Duration) x Intensity
  • Chris breaks down the different levels of friends and the quantity of each: Acquaintances down to close friends.
  • A lot of times we go through the Lost Decade from friends especially when kids are involved.
  • You need to protect your heart and evaluate the risk when pursuing friendships outside of marriage.
  • There is a transient nature to friendships, and you need to learn how to manage the ebb and flow of those relationships.
  • The Healthy – How to Solve Common Friendship Problems.

Episode #197 Transcription